badboygaga
Mar 1, 2026
I had started to use speech patterns that better facilitate the more expansive energy.
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So I’m just going to speak straight since the riddles and koans get a bit obtuse, so this is for the sake of getting to the point, ironically.
The speech pattern changing aspect was something I tried on for a few years, but found that it wasn’t sticking because it was so consciously held. I will say the problem is that sometimes it can be a bit self-reflexive, like you’re trying to do something in the moment while maintaining a sort of field and consciousness. This might be more “present” in you, but can create disconnect in the moment between the two of you.
There are ways to ease a person into an intersubjective conscious-awareness that’s a bit less intentional and more spontaneous in the moment. This is particularly interesting when someone else is walking the path in their own way, and you can meld your beings in a sense. Part of that is having rapport with the person and meeting them at their level, and vice versa (as every being has blind spots and ways of shining the truth into every space). While conversations are tough, sex can be even more challenging as you’re exchanging quite a bit of energy between one another and the activity can be quite distracting. Holding awareness requires a lot of practice.
But it’s just another arising of an experience.
The integration bit, can be very tough. It’s actually the hardest thing to do - it’s one thing to hold the view expansively on your own on the cushion or in a retreat space, it’s a whole other practice with another human being in the wild, so to speak. My wife and I have this challenge, as she’s not much of a spiritual seeker, which we understood long ago as our core difference.
Sometimes you just have to let the energy flow in the direction the river wants to take it. Which can mean giving up holding onto a certain feeling or perspective when engaging with others; just holding the intention of good will and compassion for the other is sufficient and you act accordingly and spontaneously to what arises, rather than manufacture something out of it.
You will notice yourself less present within yourself, especially for those who don’t have a practice, are heavily distracted or hold onto a lot of discursive thoughts, or are not particularly keen on being present themselves, but you can just right that back afterwards. It’s not a big deal, it’s all practice.
Anyway, just observations and thoughts. Hold to what lands and relinquish the rest, etc.